In a world of hot-or-not dating apps it seems we have all been reduced to our ability to take a decent selfie.And while the fast and furious land of online dating makes it impossibly easy to meet new people, dating sites are not for the faint-hearted.Notice very carefully that I said it’s the of rejection – more than the rejection itself – that causes people to hesitate.The expectation of being rejected is so disturbing and present that many people won’t make any attempts at all in the face of everything they imagine will happen to them when (not if) they get shot down.Now news of your failure is spreading like wildfire through your entire community, leaving you emotionally stranded as an object of ridicule who will never, Of course, what you imagine is far worse than the reality by orders of magnitude, but being rejected still sucks.However, it doesn’t have to be the apocalyptic event that you’ve built up in your mind.
Dating takes a thick skin and often the fear of constant rejection, some delicate, some unbridled, can be enough for some to embrace singledom rather than run the risk of being burned.
Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life.
Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools.
There are too many Elliot Rodger types in our midst, so incapable of dealing with rejection that their skewed perspective leads to needless tragedy – on a small or large scale. But you shouldn’t try to make sure she’s hurting, too, by lashing out emotionally (and certainly not physically). We have no more right to a woman’s time & affection that we do to Harvard granting us unconditional admission. Do you think she’s going to hear you call her a stuck-up bitch and say, “Oh, maybe I was wrong about him. Making our romantic dreams come to fruition isn’t so different from doing so with any other goal. But it doesn’t mean some other wonderful result isn’t still possible for us.
Because let’s face it: male rage is a very real problem for women in today’s world. And while the burden of initiation still appears to rest mostly on the shoulders of men, that burden doesn’t entitle us to expect compliance for putting our necks out there. A strong man doesn’t fly into a rage when things don’t go as planned. If she already was leaning away from you, you’re not exactly making her change her impression of you by freaking out and getting angry. How we handle rejection in our romantic lives is a good barometer of how well we’ll adapt when our personal or professional goals meet resistance, too.