I am a female employee in my late 20s working for a large Fortune 500 U. One day a couple weeks ago, my boss was talking as usual about how his daughter is very attractive and wants to start dating. My boss is in his early 40s and is a father of two. My boss often tells me, totally unsolicited, that his daughter is “very attractive,” a “perfect tall blonde,” and “so beautiful.” He says boys are fawning over her and she wants to start dating.Her mother's and my schedules are fluid, so certain activities don't always fall into logical parenting categories -- which is how I came to spend a recent Saturday at our local Victoria's Secret.Under the gaze of giant posters of young-looking models, in a store oozing with sexuality, my daughter and I went bra shopping.Kaylah Harris was 18 when she first experienced dating violence.She had a hair appointment and didn't want to be late, so she decided to go, leaving the behind the boyfriend who was supposed to go with her, but was running behind. ' And I told him 'I left, I didn't want to miss my hair appointment waiting on you.' And he was like, 'you're stupid.' He called me a bitch," she said. She said she took a break from him for a few days, but they got back together.The question is how parents should recognize the signs and not just dismiss it as teen drama.
I did some online research, read a handful of articles and consulted a few books.— February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness month.Teen dating violence is reported as extremely common and starts as early as 11 years old.That’s a horrible thing to say about another person — sexist, punitive, and demeaning, and another person’s sexuality is none of your business — and I hope you’ll take this as a flag to rethink whatever thought pattern led you there.The problem isn’t just that you said it to your boss; it’s that you said it about another person at all. Anyway, yeah, you did indeed insult his daughter, and you need to talk to him and correct the record.