Over the years, a number of authors have offered a variety of definitions for this difficult dynamic that seems to affect more people than we can imagine.My definition is a very simple one: "codependency" occurs when we put other people's needs ahead of our own on a fairly consistent basis.
" Indeed, this will be a real dilemma for you as a people-pleaser.A reader, Noah, wrote me this -Sebastian, I want to conduct an Experiment on personal productivity. I believe that if I had to show/tell people what I did each day I'd be more productive. I have been busy lately but I feel like I need to work on my writing. And sometimes just saying yes is the easiest way out (see: placating a demanding mother-in-law). Other research finds that when we do things for other people, our brains light up in areas associated with pleasure and reward.Given this, it's not always easy to know when a firm is in order. The most obvious sign you're too accommodating: Saying yes makes you feel bad.