I thought that women felt attracted to men for the same reasons that we feel attracted to women. I didn’t realize that it was possible to make beautiful women feel attracted to me for reasons OTHER than looks, so if they rejected me, I simply assumed, That’s all I knew because I was another brainwashed modern man who believed the junk I saw in TV and magazine advertisements.
Even though I saw below-average looking guys with beautiful women, I didn’t see that as real.
I spent a lot of time trying to make myself LOOK better to women (e.g.
buying clothes, going to tanning salons, getting the latest haircuts, etc), but it didn’t work.
I am not advocating arranged marriages; rather, I am pointing toward the biblical purpose for why young men and women associate with one another. It also recognizes the specific call that Ephesians gives men in marriage, where our main role is sacrificial service.
The attempt to answer that question has brought about a literary flood over the last several years, with different works bearing different levels of usefulness. The other group rejects the current dating method altogether as biblically flawed.
In fact, as I've written on Boundless before, I think that scenario is preferable to the "close friendship" route.
Sure, sometimes a man and woman start out as friends and just naturally develop into dating and beyond.
But as logical and tempting as it seems, Camerin learned the dangers of dating a non-Christian.
Here’s a woman of God in Steve’s arms, and he could care less. How could Amber consider marriage with someone who doesn’t share her beliefs? And because the non-Christian dating scene tends to be much more open and aggressive, those nonbeliever singles are standing by with invitations to dinner ready.