I’m 29 years old and I’m standing in a freezing playground, in heels, with a hangover, holding a melting ice cream.I’m four months into a relationship with a man who has a child who I’m about to meet for the first time and, to be honest, I’m bricking it.How well has your guy worked through the angst of his marriage ending? Some will try to alienate their children from their father as well as his new partner.Privacy in the home becomes difficult because angry mothers tend to interrogate their children when they return home from Dad's house.Usually, her limit tips at the 10-year mark, but sometimes, she will make a concession for 15 or 20.If his hair is aptly salt and peppered, she will even dip down to a solid five years older.I have a friend — let's call her Jane — who only dates older men.
I wave awkwardly at this tiny yet enormously significant human being – all gangly limbs and pretending to be a dinosaur. I have no idea how I got here, but in this moment I realise that life as I know it is about to change.Having only exchanged brief, common courtesies via phone with my guy’s ex, I can say that it is necessary for you to be cordial in this situation, because you’ll be interacting with her child as well. Seeing a man with a child does give an inclination of the type of father he makes, and females – me included – tend to look for that particular quality when choosing our mates.In my case, we haven’t really had any tension thus far. there are many people out there who have a child with their ex. Coming to terms with it depends on what the single (and childless) individual is willing to accept, all in the name of love and finding ‘the one’. Possessing the ideal qualities is what would make the final deal in him becoming a potential husband.Wasn’t I the same person who vowed to never date a man with a child? There are other men who are single, childless and worth getting to know. I was up for the challenge, and decided to give it shot.Alas, I admit, those were my exact words, but those words were also spoken by a much younger and not so much wiser version of myself. Obviously, there are several issues to deal with when someone has a child. Do you think you’ll get jealous when you have to share him, and can’t throw a tantrum because you’ll ‘look bad’ for being jealous of a child? trying to pacify the mother so his relationship with his child isn’t affected, and keeping his ‘woman’ comfortable.