They’d met young, in their early 20s, and had decided, two months before James and I met, to divorce. James had been the one to request the divorce; his wife had been devastated by his decision. There’s not a week that goes by that I don’t think either A) I’m thrilled he’s got that experience under his belt, or B) Why god, did I have to fall in love with a guy with an ex-wife? But beyond that, it’s just a device with which to torture yourself. If he dumped her, you think, “What’s to stop him from dumping me? You’re destined to wonder – however briefly – how much of him is still in love with her. And if you’re the one who winds up with him, it will fall upon you to help him cope. A man with a now-defunct marriage under his belt has learned a few things about himself, about what he has to work on, about what he can and cannot handle.
All this information came up over the course of our 10-hour date, and to some extent, the process of James discussing it was akin to someone waving a red flag in my face. The point of course is this: There are some serious pros to dating a divorced guy. The Cons: (I thought we’d get the negatives out of the way first. ” You’ll have to manage her continued pining, her continued pursuit. You will see him see old photos, you will see him cry or scream or fume or mourn. And – lest it bears mention – this is all as much fun as… A guy who’s lived with a woman for a significant period of time has a pretty good sense of what to say and when to say it. If you’re boyfriend’s divorced, you can be 99 percent sure he’s lived with someone else for a while and has a solid understanding of shared space as a result. A divorce is a horrible thing to be sure, but from what I’ve observed, it’s also pretty humbling.
Hi I am a 23 yr old Gemini female and I'm sleeping with a 21 yr old cancer male.
Let time pass and let him breathe and get to the future.
We made it 8years,but afterwhile love wasn't enough to keep us together. Yeah they are home buddy but they also love to cheat when they are off the house!!
He kept cheating,yes he loved the hell out of me and I loved him to life,but he couldn't control his issues with needing other women for sex. For example, Everytime he cheated I found out,he begged to come back eachtime, I'd hold out and I would milk those apologies for everything I could imagine because hey I'm a Gemini, I like a little drama and I knew he was sensitive about home life and me.
Being a divorced person for six years, I think I can paint a pretty accurate picture of some of the typical traits I see in divorced men.
Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don't want to feel obligated to do anything!